Is Your Marriage On A Slippery Slope Because Your Wife Doesn’t Feel Loved?
Are you and your wife having marital problems? Did you know that there are 5 different ways of expressing your love to your wife? Dr. Gary Chapman’s 5 Languages of Love has helped many couples save their marriage and improve their relationship. If you and your wife don’t express your love for each other in a way you both can understand, your relationship and marriage will suffer. Discover what your wife’s primary expression of love is to win her back.
First things first, it’s often happens after two people have been together for a while to take each other for granted. Now that your married, you don’t feel as if you have to try so hard. If you don’t show or tell your wife how much you love her daily, chances are you’re giving her plenty of room to doubt your feelings. If you do tell her that you love her everyday and she still doesn’t feel love, it’s safe to say that she speaks a different love language than you. Sometimes being told that you’re loved is not enough to feel loved. Could this be perhaps your relationship is on the slippery slope?
Does Your Wife Need Affirmations to Feel Loved?
You can express your love to your wife by telling her how much she means the world to you.
Other verbal expressions of love can be along the lines of “I love your cooking” and “out of every women in my life, you truly are the one I love most.” When you use words to tell someone you love them, add more depth and conviction to your words. Instead of telling her “I love you,” also tell her WHY you love her. Many woman who needs words of affirmations also needs reasons why you feel that way. It will come off as more genuine and honest when you tell her how you feel and give her a reason why.
Does Your Wife Need Quality Time Spent With You to Feel Loved?
All successful relationships need quality to together to cultivate their love. This means you take the time out of your busy day to spend time with her. Whether it be a romantic dinner, taking a walk at night, playing a game of chess together or other activities that both of you can enjoy to do together.
When you spend time together, you are allowing open communication with your wife. When you and your wife can speak freely and listen to each other, you are strengthening your marriage.
Is the Concept of Receiving Gifts Your Wife’s Love Language?
People who see gift giving as an act of love are NOT gold digging urchins. What comes to mind to many people about gift giving as an act of love is that you can’t buy love. Well, for many people, the concept of giving is a token of love and appreciation. Regardless of how much the cost of the gift(it could be a picked dandelion) your wife will connect that object to your expression of love. To your wife, your expression of love is worth more than the object itself.
Do You Need to Provide Acts of Service To Prove Your Love?
If it’s common for you to come home and expect your spouse to make dinner while you continue to do other things (like taking time to relax or do more work on your computer) you may want to step out of this routine to show your wife how much you love her. People who do household chores, takes the kids to soccer practice and makes your dinner as an expression of love will generally want to feel love in returned.
That’s why so many women in failing marriage don’t feel loved when they don’t feel appreciated by their husbands. Tonight, why don’t you surprise her with a delicious meal. When you do acts of service, you are doing it for the purpose of showing your wife how much you love her. If this is the language your wife speaks, you may connect what she does at home to how much she cares for you.
Does Your Wife Crave Physical Touch To Feel Loved?
When referring to physical touch it’s not just sexual intimacy I’m referring to. If your wife loves to hug, kiss, snuggle, have her hair played with or hold hands in public, her primary love language is touch. It’s the feeling of being physically close to you that makes her feel loved.
Keep in mind that MANY people have more than 1 primary love language. Your wife may be a combination of several of the 5 languages mentioned above. If you don’t figure out exactly what it takes for your wife to feel loved, your relationship and marriage is in trouble. Remember, you can tell her you love her until you’re blue in the face and she still may not feel loved if you don’t speak her language.