Battle-Tested Strategies for a Peaceful Marriage – What to Do and How to Do It
Relationships take work, the question is, do you want to work yours? Since marriage matters can be delicate, its important to carefully consider your options in restoring the peace.
Getting a derailed marriage back on track can be one of the most challenging, if not trying things you’ll ever do. But, believe me, there are many dividends when you seek to improve your number one relationship.
This article will give you some vital tools for transforming your marriage from one that drives you crazy to one that leaves you coming back for more, day after day, year in and year out.
Celebrity marriages are one thing. For us regular people, marriage means something else entirely. Marriages were meant to last a lifetime in my opinion, and not just until someone better comes along. That’s true unless you believe what Hollywood has to say about the topic.
The most important thing you can do for your relationship, whether or not you’ve got kids, is make a genuine commitment to each other. That means that when the going gets tough, you’re still around, and haven’t moved on to another, more convenient or exciting relationship. A marriage where both partners have few doubts about commitment is one that has staying power. If yours doesn’t, make that change now and watch what happens.
Patience is another strategy for reviving a painful marriage that’s on its last leg. Depending upon how far you’ve let things go, you could be looking at months or even years of work, so patience is a huge requirement if you want to mend your marriage.
It’s not going to happen overnight, that’s for sure. Both you and your spouse have weaknesses or faults. Instead of hammering on them, or criticizing and complaining about them, try something different. Be patient with their shortcomings, gracious with the words you speak, and actions you take. Instead of being negative, be positive. Instead of criticizing, try encouraging. Whatever you decide to do, it all starts with the decision to be patient in your relationship.
Bringing your marriage back from the dead by taking consistent action is the third thing you can do to bring your marriage back from the dead. Since you can rarely put faith in someone’s words today, actions continue to speak the loudest.
That may make your marriage particularly difficult when one or both partners have a bad attitude. It may not be obvious but rather take the form of bitterness, resentment, or unforgiveness. This may make it extremely challenging for you to make changes in how you speak to your spouse, for instance, or to believe that your marriage is worth working on, when the other person treats you the same way as always.
However, if you keep at it, and take consistent action, your spouse may eventually notice your efforts, and start making some changes of their own.
You obviously saw something in your partner that caused you to get married in the first place. With undying perseverance to recover that lost love, over time, it is possible to get back. That’s my final strategy for reviving your marriage: persevering despite your emotions or circumstances. Let me encourage you to keep at it, as the odds are in your favor.
Otherwise, you face a dim future. Those who divorce and enter into a 2nd or third marriage face terrible prospects: almost a 70% chance of divorce the 2nd go around and about 75% on attempt number three.
Will you make difficult decisions – to be patient when your temper is thin, to uphold your vows in spite of more attractive prospects, to persist in spite of all odds, and take action to hold it all together? If you do so consistently, you may be pleasantly surprised at how quickly chaos turns to peace in your marriage.