Are You Tired Of Fighting With Your Spouse? Do These 2 Things To Save Your Marriage

Are You Tired Of Fighting With Your Spouse? Do These 2 Things To Save Your Marriage

You and your spouse loved each other at one point, it’s still possible to get back to the point in your marriage when you both were happy. Here are some things you can do to turn your marriage around.

These strategies will take work and it won’t be easy. How much are you willing to tough it out to save your marriage and get the love back into your life? Even if your the only one willing to save your marriage, just by doing these few things, you can actually change your spouse’s response to you. Pretty similar to when someone smiles at you, you can’t help but smile back at them as well.

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So with that said, stop what how you have been behaving and try these tips on for size!

The very first thing that you have to do is to stop being so negative. That means, no more complaining and no more criticizing. Change your complaints and criticism to something constructive, positive and beneficial. Even when your spouse says or do something that upsets you. For example, if your spouse tells you “all we ever do is fight”, instead of getting defensive and say statements that will result into a fight, just tell your spouse “you know what, you’re right.” The fact that you here, frequent fights between you and your spouse is a common occurrence. Sincerely let all guards down with your spouse. Be honest and genuine and once your spouses sees you want to stop fighting, your spouse will reevaluate his own actions and words.

The second thing that you can do is that you don’t pressure your spouse in any way at all. If there are problems in a marriage, it is always a common problem that one spouse is always pressuring the other to change. This is a huge mistake if you want to stop your divorce.

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When you are pressuring someone, you are putting them in defense and making them more resistive. Nobody likes to be pressured so they would try to resist it. You need to stop yourself whenever you have the urge to pressure your spouse to change.

When people use “I” statements rather than “You” statements, you would be surprise at how much of a difference switching out those statements be. “I” statements are least likely going to start an argument while “You” statements are very argumentative. Think of it this way, how would you feel if your spouse said “You never want to spend time with me anymore.” Your immediate response would be “that’s not true” and that is where your fight begins. What happened if you said something along the lines of “Honey, I feel as if we don’t spend enough time together, I miss you”. Can you see the difference between “I” statements and “You” statements? Just by changing this minor detail could you potentially change the direction of your marriage.

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