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Communication Breakdown – Steps To Better Communication With Your Spouse to Avoid Divorce

Communication Breakdown: Steps To Better Communication With Your Spouse to Avoid Divorce

Every couple has a communication breakdown in their marriage at some point. In fact, most couples have numerous breakdowns in communication throughout their marriage. Communication is really a simple thing, but somehow as humans, we complicate things and blur the lines of communication with our spouse and our relationships begins to get out of focus quickly. When love and feelings are involved, any misunderstanding with your mate can lead to anger, frustration and withdrawal. read more

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5 Tips To Save Your Marriage and Stop Divorce After an Affair

5 Tips To Save Your Marriage and Stop Divorce After an Affair

Want to save your marriage and stop divorce? Is it easier said than done? Well, it may feel like that if your marriage has gone through an affair. An affair can shatter a marriage right to the very core in many ways, including destroying the trust. After the trust is gone divorce may be one of the only clear options that you have. But if you really want to make the marriage work, and you are willing to take the action required to fix it then divorce doesn’t have to be the only option, or even an option at all. read more

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An Unhappy Marriage: How to Know When It’s Really Over

An Unhappy Marriage: How to Know When It’s Really Over

It’s a fact. There are a lot of people who feel unhappy in their marriage. But the real question many of them are asking themselves is, how do I know when my marriage is really over?
Is it when your spouse says, “I don’t love you anymore?” Is it after an affair takes place? How do you REALLY …It’s a fact. There are a lot of people who feel unhappy in their marriage. But the real question many of them are asking themselves is, how do I know when my marriage is really over?
Is it when your spouse says, “I don’t love you anymore?” Is it after an affair takes place? How do you REALLY know? Keep reading to find out how to identify the warning signs that often indicate your spouse has given up on your marriage.
First and Foremost: Has your spouse reached The Point of No Return?
What is the Point of No Return in a marriage? Is there such a thing? After working with couples for over 11 years, I’ve identified a specific “path” that couples travel on the way to divorce. And at the end of this path is what I call…The Point of No Return.
But I’m getting ahead of myself…let me back up for a second.
In most cases, your marriage is NOT over when:
– Your spouse moves out
– When your spouse says the infamous, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you anymore”
– When your spouse threatens you with divorce
And believe it or not, in some cases, your marriage is NOT over…when your spouse files for divorce.
Your marriage is NOT over when your spouse begs, pleads, argues, screams, storms out of the house or turns the whole family against you.
Quite the contrary, The Point of No Return in a marriage IS confirmed when your spouse looks at you as if s/he were dead.
There is no life in your spouse’s voice and no life in his/her eyes. Your spouse doesn’t get angry with you. S/he simply tells you when the divorce papers are going to be served. S/he’s already gone to the court house, found an attorney and has a service date set for the divorce proceedings.
Your marriage is most likely over when your spouse has made complete lists of assets and debts with your both of your names on them. Your spouse has already decided on the custody plan and cleaned out any bank accounts with their name and yours and closed all the credit cards that you share.
Your spouse has reached The Point of No Return when s/he already knows the courts require a 120 day waiting period and s/he has emotionally bolted him/herself in place for the long wait.
You’ve gone WAY beyond an “unhappy marriage” when your spouse has talked many times to the children about divorce and they are now either scared, angry, hurt, confused or emotionally shut down.
There’s a good chance your marriage is over when your spouse doesn’t care about how your children feel about it. S/he is only acting for his/her own survival at this point and s/he has repeatedly convinced him/herself that “The kids are good, they’ll be fine.” S/he may have even said that to friends and relatives.
This is the REAL Point of No Return. I’ve found that when your spouse has reached the Point of No Return, no one can save your marriage at this point. Not a priest, pastor or marriage counselor.
So How Did this Happen?
A marriage gets to this point because we live in a society that is convinced that once you are married, there is nothing you need to learn about marriage and nothing you need to practice.
All you need is love.
If you don’t have love, then it’s all your fault that your marriage failed. Because of this belief, you kept on doing exactly what you always did…your version of love.
You treated your spouse the same way your father treated your mother…or vice versa. You kept on doing the same thing and kept on getting the same results.
Your spouse could not help you to help him/her. No matter how many times s/he told you how to meet his/her needs, you couldn’t hear…you just couldn’t understand.
How do I know this?
I know it because every single divorce is built on the same system. When your emotional needs are not met in a marriage, anywhere from 1-3 of the situations listed below will begin to take place in your marriage.
Because you know virtually nothing about how to be married and how to support each other’s needs, you have no way to stop these issues from happening:
– Affair
– Sex failure
– Communication break down
– No Loyalty
– In-Law problems
– Grew apart
– Fell out of love
– Blended family issues
– Abusive attitudes
– Depression
– Angry spouse
– No romance
– Ignores me
– Money problems
– Children problems
– Avoids me
If your spouse has not yet passed the Point of No Return, you can still save your marriage; there is still hope for the two of you. But you need to do something TODAY to improve your unhappy marriage. Believe me, I get emails daily with stories about marriages that took a turn for the worst in a matter of WEEKS.
These people simply waited too long and before they knew it, their spouse had reached the Point of No Return. So my message to you is this…DON’T WAIT. Do something for your marriage TODAY…before it’s too late. You can start by getting FREE marriage advice at http://www.marriage-success-secrets.com.
Note: This article is not legal advice. It is not meant to replace marriage counseling.

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3 Common Reasons Why Does Divorce Occurs In A Marriage

3 Common Reasons Why Does Divorce Occurs In A Marriage

Here is an interesting fact! Did you know that early marriage is a key predictor for divorce in later life? It is understood that about half of the people who marry under the age of 18 and about 40% under the age of 20 will end up in a divorce settlement! This is research that was conducted by the atlanta Journal Constitution.

The research also went as far to mention that an estimated Ten years is the approximate lifetime of a couple that marry in their teens… end in a divorce! This is an unfortunate statement and it suggests also that if a couple marry at an early age… it ends in divorce! Marrying late is a cause for a lower quality of marriage! This has been revealed by similar research conducted in the NFI (National Fartherhood Initiative)

The ideal age to marry seems to be between 23-27 years of age! This age group is less likely to head in the direction of a divorce in comparison to the younger age group! However, the question remains due to high divorce rates.. “how can we abolish all these divorces from happening and fix the broken relationships?

Well… one of the main reasons for a divorce is infidelity. The reason for infidelity to happen in a marriage is perhaps rooted to an unsatisfactory marriage and pure boredom. It is also known that women are fast catching up with men in this area!

Another marital breakdown is poor communication which of course results in divorce if it is not dealt with correctly! If couples are becoming bad communicators toward each other.. then it is inevitable that the couple will lead themselves down the road to divorce.

Finally the last common reason why a divorce happens in a marriage is due to financial issues and disagreements where money matters. This is especially a heated reason in an economic down turn like the one we are experiencing these days in 2009! With jobs being lost on either side of the marriage… couples find it very difficult to maintain their marriage where financial stress is in abundance!

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11 Tactics You Should Know To Stop Divorce From Happening

Even though you may think that divorce is certain this is not always the case. In fact, there is a very large success rate from people who have taken action and applied the methods that professionals provide for the soul purpose to stop divorce.

1. Stop feeling sorry for yourself.

No one likes to be around someone who is feeling sorry for themselves it is somehow viewed as a selfish act. Kind of like someone being ungrateful. read more

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